The last time we talked about attachments as a powerful glue
that we apply to a couple, object, idea, to name a few, and that
knowing that we can separate would take us from just thinking
about it to a series of curses and disappointments of our life, when
never, we have never been closer to wisdom, and that word is so
adulterated that it is happiness. Whenever a patient arrives at my
office with an anxiety reaction and some depressive episode due to
a love breakup, at the moment of knowing their history it is evident
that it was a good thing to have that break, because we agree that
when listen to someone talk about a relationship, one immediately
knows when the protagonist can do well or badly, little by little ?,
one can think “... what a nice relationship they have” or a “go on, they
do it as they want”. And that’s when at the beginning of my analysis
to your talk, one mentions to the patient that he lives a fortunate
moment, and they turn to me to see with the most unbelieving eyes
of the world world, and they tell me with a “but how do you think
that? It is the worst moment of my life “, and I would like to point
out that a moment of suffering is the best crystal with which we can
visualize a situation, if we are resolute enough despite the moment
we are living, it is to take advantage of that cold and painful wave
that we It allows us to obtain that resistance that we would not do
otherwise.
Since it is the principle to obtain that unique power that human
beings have, and of which even the angels lack, the principle of free
will, of being able to do what we want, and decide which way to go.
That is the way to grow, to decide with the respective consequences,
is what makes us great, regardless of our virtues, since what
distinguishes us is our way of choosing; and the courageous sister
of the decision is detachment. Let us understand the detachment
as letting go, letting go, being screwed, not knowing and being
worth the sorbet that was what happened, is turning our backs
and following our path to that deep-rooted attachment. Do you
want to have the power in relationships? It’s true, you have to be
a lady or a gentleman, you have to support our partner, yes; You
have to be attentive and be a good guy, yes, but you also have to
arrive with your suitcases, know to go immediately to detect
an action or situation that we know we can not tolerate, that is
harmful and that is not negotiable: go to Cats work is negotiable, it
is to go to America or Toluca, it is to vote for one party or another,
but it is not negotiable infidelity, aggression, violence in its various
presentations, addictions, the constant lack of overcoming work
, also called roe, or be a person with bad habits of hygiene and
health. Only one chooses, only one chooses, and we must assume
the consequences, since in our country we are accustomed to being
victims, to delegate our guilt to others, to say that one is the good
and the other the bad, etc., but We never take responsibility, and
those actions will never make us grow. Do you want to be a real
man, or a whole woman? Use your choices, be responsible, assume
the consequences and you will see a new dawn.